A quote I often find myself thinking about is:

I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. —Maya Angelou

I'm not sure if I am a thinker or feeler (I think I'm both but others would say otherwise on both sides of the spectrum) but I believe most people are feelers, emotional.

Why do people want to get rich? It's not because they want all the money. And it's not because they want to use that money to buy a house, boat, etc. They want the feeling associated with those. Whether it be power, trying to rectify not feeling adequate (i.e. a hungry ghost), etc.

For this reason, I often find myself striving to connect with people emotionally (even people I don't really know that well). So I usually try to wish everyone who's birthday it is on Facebook a happy birthday. And if someone in my network got a new job on LinkedIn, I congratulate them with a direct message. Or if someone I know lost a love one (that I hear about) I’ll reach out and give my condolences.

I don't think many people do these things who aren't close friends. A lot of people will probably do the generic "Happy bday" on the FB wall or like the LinkedIn job update. But I strive to go above and beyond.

Written: October 20, 2020 (whilst listening to Feels by Calvin Harris and company)

Additional resources:

  • Winning Bigly by Scott Adams