Why you shouldn’t take my advice

Everyone tells you what to do and what is good for you. They don't want to find your own answers. They want to believe theirs. —Socrates

I think most advice people give is bad, especially when the advice is about identity. Asking for career advice is a particularly strong example of this.

Although people might not come across as it, I suspect 75% of people are insecure about decisions they make and thus are constantly trying to validate the decisions they've made, their viewpoints, etc.

It is for this reason that advice is generally bad IMO. If you are a high school student and talk with a lawyer, there's a high probability that they will say you should be a lawyer. If you're in university and talk with an investment banker, you'll be told you should be an IB. The great advice in life is found when you ask someone for advice and they don't give you advice at all. They simply ask you questions so that you can figure it out yourself.


  • Add books on how to do this
  • Add taxi cab driver's thoughts on on future of taxi industry. they are obviously going to be biased


🚧On the flip side of this, you're probably more like other people than you think you are (vs. being a unique snowflake). One of my favourite books of all time, Stumbling on Happiness by Dan Gilbert, the final chapter talks about how you should ask others for their advice and there's a high chance that you will have similar experience. 🚧

Quote stolen from Kyle Tymo, stolen from Epictetus:

Do not explain your philosophy. Embody it.


Additional Resources:

  • "Know Thyself" at the Oracle of Delphi
  • Springboard by G. Richard Shell
  • Stumbling on Happiness by Dan Gilbert

Written: August 12, 2020