Assumptions I make 🚧

Going into an interaction with another person, these are the assumptions I make:

  • Lead with empathy
  • Life is struggling
    • You don't know what they are dealing with behind closed doors
    • Kindness goes a long way
  • How can we make this a win-win?
  • 🚧 Did I leave the interaction making and contributing to the person making them a better person? 🚧
  • Default to positive intentions in mind
  • Everyone is trying their best
  • People are 90% irrational, 10% rational; most people think they are 90% rational, 10% irrational (I don't know if these are the exact numbers, the point is people are more irrational than they think they are)
  • For the most part, I don't blame people for who they are, the way they act. This somewhat comes back to empathy. Most people are the way they are because of the environment around them — people, experiences, culture, etc. — and most of the way people are the way they are is due to their environment in their formative years.
    • Most people think they come to their own conclusions about the world but they actually just embrace others'. Most people, including myself, are cooks. We need more people to be chefs.
  • 🚧Dialectics are possible. Two seemingly opposite things can be true at the same time. 🚧
  • ‘Yes AND’ is better than ‘Yes BUT’
  • As much as possible, I try to not base people on their history. Just bc they were a way in the past doesn’t mean they will be like that in the future.




Additional Resources:

  • Scott Adams
  • Wait But Why
  • Hume and The Problem of Induction

Written: August 12, 2020